It's January 1st, 2020! Happy New Years!!!! I hope everyone had a great New Years Eve. We spent our New Years Eve just like we do every year lately...on the couch with our dogs and celebrated the ball dropping with New York at 11pm our time so that we could go to sleep :) However this year, we did have some friends over, made dinner and watched the few final Friends episodes also. It honestly was the best New Years Eve.
As for today, we relax...a.k.a watch football, order pizza and get organized for 2020. With a new year comes new commitments to each other and ourselves. As a couple, we have done this for the last few years now and honestly, I am so glad we started. It keeps us on the same page and allows for us to hold each other accountable. As for personal commitments, I always used to just set a new years resolution or have a few goals that I hoped I would accomplish, but last year I decided to make a list of commitments instead. As I have talked about this process with some friends and family, I have been asked why I don't just use the word "goals" when I develop these. I live in the world of goals with being a Special Education teacher and while the list that I make is a big list of goals by using the word "commitment", I am committing myself to doing the items I write down. They are no longer a "I want to do these thing" but now a "I am committing to doing these things." For me, mindset and self-talk is huge game changer. Since I have changed from the word "goal" to "commitments" I accomplish more and take each item more seriously.
Our Couple Bucket List
My husband and I create a bucket list of things we want to do or accomplish together in the new year. When we are making our list together we start it on New Years Eve and finish it up New Years Day, sometimes we even decide to finish it a few days later just to ensure we had enough time to write down all of our ideas. We create a shared note through the Notes app on our iPhones so that we can both add things to it as we think of ideas, then as we sit down together and evaluate those ideas. Once we have it all set in stone we write it in my planner (because I'm the organized one) and revisit it each month. For some items we put exact dates we plan to accomplish our commitments by but others we put will just put a certain month. This holds us to what we want to do by when we say we are going to do it, but it also allows for some flexibility, especially when life happens.
Personal Commitment Lists
We also create personal commitment lists. As for my personal commitments, I use my Christmas break to develop a list of things I want to do for myself in the next year. Some of these are very simple actions while some are larger and require more time or resources. I put my list everywhere so that I am constantly reminded by what I committed to at the beginning of the year.
We try to have our commitments list finalized by the second weekend in January so that we have a great plan to start off our new year. Once our couple list is finalized we hang a copy in our kitchen so that it is a constant reminder of our commitments. We also hang both of our personal lists so that we can help hold each other accountable as well as putting them places that works best for the both of us.
I hope you have the most relaxing New Years Day and your 2020 begins with the most positive happenings!!! Stay tuned to see what commitments my husband and I come up with and what will be our plan for 2020 <3
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